Can we speak strongly in informal meetings with nondevotees so as to prevent discussions from going in provocative directions?

From Sudha Mehta M

In our dealings with other devotees and Vaishnava we are at least careful as not to cause Vaishnava aparadh. But when it comes to dealing with people in real material world like for eg a ladies get together or at workplace or in Corporate informal meets keeping away, not answering etc does not act in our favour. Sometimes their behaviour is so instigating we cant do without giving a tight reply so that things are nipped in bud. Is it ok that we keep speed break in our dealings with devotees while with normal karmi people we can take liberties if they provoke. I am sorry if I have offended you in any way. Will be obliged if you can clarify