Why did Sita return to the earth rather than reunite with Rama when her sons met him?
Why did mother Sita enter into the earth rather than be united? Be united with Ram when he finally called her back? Answer, ultimately these are pastimes that are meant to function at two levels, their loving reciprocations between the Lord and His devotees, which work according to the Lord’s divine desire for His pleasure and they are meant to teach us some lessons in this world. So, the Ramayana broadly teaches the mood of sacrifice and Sita lives a, there are two kinds of sacrifice, there is a life of sacrifice and the sacrifice of life. In general, the life of sacrifice is actually far more demanding than the sacrifice of life.
And Sita could have ended her life when Ram let her send her to the forest. But she felt she had a responsibility to take care of her children and she did that diligently and that was her life or her life of sacrifice. And then finally, when her sons were reunited with Ram, then she demonstrated the sacrifice of life by re-entering into the earth.
Ultimately, when the Lord descends, He teaches us many lessons and while He teaches us how to do Adharma in this world, He also teaches how we are to face the end. And there is always a happy ending for the soul and the soul unites with God. But in this world, there is not always a happy ending.
In fact, the ending is there is separation in this world at this level. So, the whole of Ramayana is with its various characters diligently demonstrating their dutifulness and she is, they do that diligently in their particular ways. So, that’s how she enters into the earth and they are reunited ultimately in the higher spiritual abode.